10 Daily Habits to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Hi babes! When it comes to self-confidence, it can be easy to let the negativity take over. We let one bad thought turn into two and then three and pretty soon, we’re overcome with negative thoughts about ourselves and our self-confidence is ruined.

I know this better than anyone. I have days where I don’t feel good about myself at all. The trick is to practice being happy with yourself every single day. After I started doing these 10 things daily, I found that I was waking up much happier with myself and who I am and the negative thoughts don’t come around nearly as much as they used to.

If you turn these 10 confidence-boosting things into a habit, it’ll be so much easier to realize just how great you truly are.

1.    Wake up and think positive thoughts only.

If you start your day immediately by thinking great thoughts about yourself, it can set the tone for the rest of the day. So right when you wake up, list off three things that you love about yourself and that you’re happy about. Just saying those things to yourself can have a powerful influence on the way you see yourself in any situation for the whole day.   

2.    Every time you have negative thought, replace it with 2 good ones.

Two steps forward, one step back. Although this may seem like a slow way to make progress, you are still making progress. For every negative thought you have about yourself, make sure you think of 2 good ones. When the good outweighs the bad, the good will always win.

3.    Better yourself by reading.

Reading is something that not many people do after they leave school. But if you read every day – no matter what it is – you’re stimulating your mind. If you like to read fiction or self-help books or even books about gaining motivation, you’ll find that it makes you feel great about yourself. I know it helps me!

4.    Write down your worries.

Many people have a diary or a small journal. It doesn’t have to be something fancy. So long as you’re writing down your worries and concerns, it can help. Getting those feelings down on paper where they’re visible for you to see can not only help you process them, but it gives you another perspective and you can see that you’re being unreasonable with certain worries about yourself.

5.    Find a reason to smile about yourself.

If you smile about something that you do or say or even just something that you found you liked about yourself, you are one step closer to boosting your self-confidence. Every single day, I make a point to find a reason to smile about myself and it has helped with my self-esteem a ton!

6.    Find a reason to smile about someone else.

In a world where there’s access to so many different people to see, it’s easy to sit at the computer or on our phones or even looking at magazines and compare ourselves. We think everyone else is better and it makes us feel bitter toward them. Instead, practice smiling at someone else’s accomplishments. Feeling great about someone else without putting yourself down can boost your self-confidence immensely.

7.    Accept the things you can’t change.

Something that holds a lot of us back in our self-confidence is that we get hung up on all the things we can’t change. We wish we were smarter or more talented in a certain field or we wish we looked a certain way. In order to find your confidence, you have to accept what you can’t change and even start to feel great about those things because they make you unique.

8.    See your failures as lessons, instead.

Don’t look at something you failed at and get yourself down. I don’t succeed at everything I do by any means. That being said, I don’t sit and wallow about those failures either. Instead, I look at them as a lesson I can learn from. I look at them as something that makes me better than I was before.

9.    Make someone else feel great about themselves.

You know what is underrated as a means to gain self-confidence? Boosting someone else’s. Have you ever realized how great you feel after giving someone a compliment that made them smile? Being able to recognize great qualities in others and actually voice them can be a huge self-esteem booster for yourself, too.

10.  Remember that there is NO ONE else like you.

People forget that they’re one of a kind. Being unique and rare and truly unlike anyone else should be enough to make you feel incredible about yourself. There is nobody else out there who is everything you are. Be happy with yourself – the great things and the flaws. Because without a combination of those, you aren’t you.

Everyone deserves to have incredible self-confidence. If you struggled with this from time to time like me, these 10 daily habits will definitely help boost your self-esteem for good and help you see just how incredible you really are.

Worrying is a Pain! Here’s How You Can Stop Doing it

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Hi my loves! I hope all of you are having a fantastic day. Today I wanted to talk about something that is close to all of our hearts and that’s the fact that worrying sucks. Everybody has worries in life – it’s just how we are as people.

But sometimes that worrying can go too far and leave us drained, exhausted, and it can even lower our self-esteem. I wanted to help all of you out with the different ways you can stop worrying and just be happy to live in the moment. These are a few techniques you can do and think about whenever you start to worry too much about anything!

Stop Yourself and Think About Positive Outcomes

We all can get too caught up in our worries and what negative things may come with whatever we’re worrying about. If you want to stop worrying, you should stop and take some time to think about the positive things that can happen instead of all the negative things.

If you start doing this every single time you start worrying, your brain will actually get used to thinking about positive things when you worry. That way you can turn that anxiety into something good!

Exercise Regularly

This may not seem like it’s all that connected to worrying but it actually can be. Many of us worry because we’re really stressed out about something – I can definitely relate to this. Exercising actually reduces your stress and helps you think clearly.

Instead of spending an hour worrying about something, take that hour and go work hard at the gym. You may even find that the gym will give your more confidence and having confidence can also help you deal with any worries you may have.

Talk to Someone Close to You

Talking to your support system about your worries is a great way to get them off your chest and to get a second opinion. Getting a friend’s take on your situation can also help you realize that you may be overreacting and you have nothing to worry about. Their advice may also help you with your situation!

Write Your Worries Down in a Journal

If you don’t want to talk to anyone about what’s going on in your head you can also write down your worries in a notebook. Sometimes seeing your fears written down can help you realize that they’re not all that bad after all. You can also use this as an exercise to write down your worries and then write down what good can come out of it.

Take a Deep Breath and Realize that Everything Will Work Out in the End

This is the most important thing to do if you worry a lot. Just sit back, take a deep breath, and know that everything will work out in the end. Sometimes we worry for absolutely no reason and if you realize this, it’ll help you feel better about whatever it is you’re worry about.

Worrying can put a damper on your whole day and even prevent you from achieving some of your goals. If you practice these simple steps every time you start to worry it can help you stop worrying so much so you can actually take control of your problems with a clear head!

How to Give Thanks This Holiday Season

Happy Thanksgiving! I wanted to take a moment to thank all of you for your continued love and support. Seriously, I’m so thankful for all of you who keep me motivated and inspired to live my best life, every single day.  

It’s easy to forget about all the things we’re thankful for during the rest of the year, which is why we have a special time to remember them and give thanks. There’s so much to be thankful for every day and taking a moment to realize this elicits positive energy in the world. I'm a big believer in the energy you put out is what you get back in return - so make sure to spread only good vibes always.  I wanted to share some daily encouragement to be more thankful throughout the whole year and not just on Thanksgiving.  Here are my five tips to giving thanks this holiday season:

 

1.        Appreciate the small things, no matter how small.  This goes without saying.  Anything that brings you joy or that helps you out in life, you should be thankful for.  

2.        Don’t take ANYTHING for granted. One of the greatest tragedies of life is never knowing when something is for the last time.  It’s important to realize what you have when you have it, because oftentimes we only realize what we have when it’s gone.  

3.        Remember, what goes around comes around. If you’re grateful for what the universe provides, the universe will continue to provide.  Giving credit where credit is due, treating others how you’d like to be treated, and accepting whatever is thrown your way, is good karma.  Encourage someone when they need it and be thankful for the opportunity to do so.  When you need it, you know karma has your back.   

4.       Look on the bright side.  When life hands you lemons, make lemonade.  If ever you’re feeling sad or doubtful, frustrated with life, and that you have nothing to be gracious for, that itself is something to be grateful for.  What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger and overcoming challenges helps build resilience. There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel.

5.       Find one thing to be grateful for every single day.   This is something even I forget to do sometimes, but it’s important to designate one moment every day to list the things your thankful for.  Maybe it’s in the morning, right when you wake up and you’re thankful for your health and the strength to wake up and start your day.  Maybe it’s before you go to sleep and you’re thankful for all of the wonderful things that have happened to you that day.  Whatever works for you, remember, there is always something to be thankful for.  

Overall, just remember to appreciate everything you have in your life - even the bad - because without the bad, it’s hard to recognize all of the good. Don’t let another year go by without remembering just how great of a life you truly have. 

I’m grateful for all of you every single day, what are you thankful for? Comment below :)

How to be More Confident

Hey babes! If there’s one thing everybody struggles with, even me, it’s being confident in your own skin. We all try so hard to look better, be fitter, and even when we reach our goals, we still lack the confidence to be happy with who we are.

I just want to make sure all of you know that you’re not alone and there are ways to help find your confidence so you can finally start feeling better about who you are because you’re amazing and you all should realize that.

There are a lot of things you can do every day to help yourself feel more confident. Some are really easy, while others may take some time. Either way, you should always strive to practice these things in your everyday lives so you can be more confident and love who you are!

1.    Wake Up and Write Down 3 Things You Love About Yourself

This is a ritual all people should have – no matter who they are. If you wake up every single day and jot down three things you love about yourself, you’re starting the day thinking positively of yourself already! Another thing you can do is, before bed every night, write a message on your bathroom mirror that makes you feel beautiful and confident. That way, when you look at it in the morning, you’ll feel amazing to start the day!

2.    Count Your Blessings

I know this might sound a little cheesy, but I think a lot of us – me included – forget about all the positive things we have in our lives. This can make us feel less confident because we think we don’t have anything to feel good about. Look around you. Realize everything you have that makes you happy and makes you feel good about yourself. There’s more there than you think! Everything that makes you who you are is unique and that alone makes it beautiful.

3.    Shut Down the Negative Thoughts

There are far too many of us who let our negative thoughts cloud the positive ones in our lives. I once read that the average person has 65,000 thoughts a day and about 85% of them are negative. No wonder too many of us aren’t thinking positively about ourselves! Now imagine if you shut down every negative thought you had and replaced it with something good about yourself. You would be living a much happier life and you’d learn just how much there is to love about yourself.

4.    Work On Bettering Yourself Daily

How many of you do something every day that improves who you are as a person? I think a lot of people go through their life and focus on work, school, and the stresses their facing and don’t have time to make themselves a better person. If you dedicate time every day to making yourself better, you’ll start feeling so much more confident about yourself. So go to the gym, volunteer at a shelter, or even read motivational books! The options of improving yourself are endless.

5.    Avoid Comparing Yourself to Others – (especially online or in magazines)

This is just human nature. We look at someone online who looks great and seems to have everything put together and our confidence plummets. The thing is, we can’t compare how great we are with how great we think someone else is! We don’t know anything about their lives and what it’s like behind the picture we see. Therefore, we can’t compare ourselves to them because, well, we aren’t them! Whenever you start feeling bad about yourself because of something you see online or in a magazine, shut it down and think about something you’re great at to boost yourself up again.

Lacking confidence is something many of us have to deal with every day. I know I struggle with it from time to time, but I also know how to build myself up when I don’t feel confident. Take it from someone who knows how you feel and try these ways to have more confidence!

Say Goodbye to All Your Bad Habits with This Technique

I hope all of you are doing fantastic today. The week is almost over but you still have 2 more days to push toward your goals and make them happen!

One thing I want to talk about today is how we all have bad habits. We do. Some of them are harmless while others can hold you back from achieving the things you really want to.

For example, sleeping in. It seems like it’s a perfectly fine thing to do when you don’t really have anything to do right away in the morning, but if you’re trying to get up early and head to the gym before work, sleeping in can ruin your energy every morning!

A lot of you have told me about certain habits of yours that you think are holding you back from hitting your goals and I just wanted to share something that helped me in the hopes that it will help you just as much and that’s the 21-day rule. 

 

What Is The 21-Day Rule?

I’m sure you guys may have seen me post about this before and that’s because it REALLY WORKS! It’s just the idea that it takes you 21 days to make or break a habit. If you do something consistently for 21 days you will have made a habit out of it.

That’s LESS THAN A MONTH! I think all of you are capable of doing this and so much more! Once you start doing something daily for 21 days, it will feel weird when you DON’T do it.

 

Making The 21-Day Rule A Bit Easier

This is honestly the hardest part of the whole thing and it’s really not even that bad. Think of a bad habit that you have and you want to break. Got it? Now, every single time you start doing this, you will stop yourself and find a NEW habit to pick up – one that is beneficial for you.

Instead of just trying to hold yourself back from doing the bad habit, starting the new one will actually keep your mind occupied AND it’s adding something valuable to your life. The technique of replacing an old habit with a new one at the same time makes this process a whole lot easier for you.

For example, every single time you reach for a bag of chips, grab a piece of fruit instead. Now, eat the piece of fruit and drink a whole glass of water. Doing this every single time you want a bag of chips for 21 days will make you get into the habit of eating fruit and drinking water for a snack instead of filling your body with something harmful and bad for you.

See how much better that can be for you?!

 

Just Give It 21 Days!

I know that sounds like a piece of cake, but it will be hard at first. All you have to remember is that it’s 21 days. Only 21 days and you can be FREE of that old, bad habit that is weighing you down and you can pick up a new habit that is really healthy and good for you!

I know that all of you are capable of achieving any goal you want to! Getting rid of your bad habits with this 21-Day rule is only going to help you get there faster. I believe in you and after 21 days, you’ll believe in yourself, too!

Stop Worrying About What Other People Think of You

Don't waste energy or time caring about what other people think about you. This took me a long time to learn, so I want to remind you all why it's so important. 

If you waste energy being so concerned with what everyone else thinks, you'll never be good enough, fit enough, smart enough, and the list goes on.

Remember, what's beautiful to some is ugly to others. That's why it is so important to decide what YOU want and spend your energy getting there and feeling good about it. The only opinion that matters is your opinion of yourself. 

Spend your energy working on your goals to get where you want to be. When you feel good, you look good! You radiate positively and it's contagious. 

The more time you spend working on yourself (and the less time spent on worrying about the opinions of others) the quicker you'll get to where you want to be and the better you'll feel when you see your progress. 

I believe that everyone has the power to look and feel the way they want and it's in your control to make it happen. You can do it!

Watermelon isn't Just for Eating! 8 Ways to Use it in Your Beauty Routine

Happy National Watermelon Day babes! Today is a special day because we get to celebrate a delicious fruit that provides us with so much stuff it’s just amazing! Instead of talking about how delicious it is (which obviously it is), I’m going to be teaching you how you can actually use watermelon in your beauty routine!

Before you picture me with watermelon smeared all over my face, just keep reading! There are a bunch of different ways to use watermelon on your skin, hair, and it’s even beneficial when you eat it!

HAIR

Helps it Grow Faster: This is probably what you’ve all been waiting to hear and I can’t believe it either, but watermelon can actually help your hair grow. Watermelon contains amino acids that promote circulation in your scalp. When your scalp gets more blood flow, more nutrients can make its way up there. The more nutrients is supplies to your hair follicle, the healthier your hair grows and the faster it can grow! This works by eating it, but you can also make a hair mask out of mashing some watermelon and letting it sit on your scalp for 15 minutes and it’ll work even better.

SKIN

Anti-Acne: Let’s all give a moment of silence to acknowledge the fact that watermelon isn’t just a tasty and beautiful fruit, it also get rid of acne. With all the vitamins it contains, it fights your breakouts and helps give you an even skin tone. You can make a fun face mask out of this, some ground oatmeal, and a little honey. Smear it all over your face for 15 minutes then rinse it off!

Toner: Toners are beneficial because they balance your skin’s pH – which basically just means it stops excess oil from being released. This is awesome for applying makeup, reducing acne, and minimizes the oily shine that builds up during the day. All you have to do is dip a cotton ball in some juice, apply, and let it dry!

Moisturizer: Another reason watermelon rocks is because it’s a natural moisturizer. We can have so many issues with our skin just because it’s dry especially for me! The next time your skin is feeling tight, dip a cotton ball in watermelon and put it on your face until it’s dry.

Anti-Aging: I think we all would be happy if we stopped showing signs of aging at 20 years old. But the reality is that we grow older and so does our face. Luckily, watermelon can be applied to reduce those signs of again because it’s filled with Vitamin A, Vitamin C, and free-radicals that prevent wrinkles and fine lines.

Eating it

Anti-Inflammatory: If you have any pimples like myself, they might look bad simply because they’re very swollen. If you eat watermelon regularly you can help reduce the inflammation. It will also help with the swelling around your eyes if you tend to get puffy eyes here and there.

Improves Sleep: For those of you that believe in getting your beauty sleep – which you all should since sleeping helps your body heal and fight off acne and other skin ailments – then you’ll love that watermelon can help you get a better night’s sleep so you wake up refreshed and renewed!

Supports Immune System: Your immune system is what’s responsible for fighting off acne-causing bacteria. Since watermelon is full of vitamins and minerals that you need, you’re giving your immune system a boost and helping ward off all of those pesky pimples!

Here’s Why We Should All Participate in National Relaxation Day

Happy National Relaxation Day loves! AKA, one of the best days of the year! In honor of this amazing day, I wanted to write about how relaxation is SO beneficial for your health and that we should all be taking time to participate in this great holiday.

A lot of people work themselves way too hard and don’t take nearly enough time to just relax, breathe, and have time to themselves. These are all of the reasons why relaxing is something we all have to do in order to be healthy…and keep our sanity! :P

 

Relaxing = Time to Heal

If you’re someone that values a healthy lifestyle, then you probably get to the gym quite a bit. A lot of you tell me about how much you’re going to the gym but just not seeing much of a change. That could because you’re not taking enough time to relax!

Taking a day to relax is extremely important in your fitness journey because you have to give your body and muscles time to heal. If you never take some time off they’ll just be overworked and you’ll have trouble progressing in the gym. So kick off those gym shoes and kick back in a recliner today to celebrate National Relaxation Day!

Reduces Stress Hormones

Everyone has to deal with stress in their lives. Nobody is immune to the feeling or the hormones that get released when you’re stressed out. You might not think much of these stress hormones until I tell you that they cause you to either gain weight or hold onto weight even when you’re trying to lose it.

So if you seem to be plateauing and can’t shed those last few pounds, maybe what you need is to spend a day relaxing instead of spending your day doing cardio. Get rid of those stress hormones that are stressing you out even more!

Improves Your Mood

Have you ever tried to get motivated to do something when you were in a bad mood? I know that for me, it’s nearly impossible. If you never get time to relax you’ll never be able to let go of that pent up anxiety, stress, and exhaustion that bring your mood down.

If you take some time to relax every once in awhile – especially today – then you’ll improve your mood. When you’re in a good mood, it’s SO much easier to get motivated and get hyped up to work hard and push yourself to accomplish your goals.

There’s a reason today is a national holiday! Take a break from the hustle and bustle of your everyday lives and relax. Your body and mind will thank you for it!